Sometimes when thoughts from the past return to occupy your mind for extended periods of time, it is not really your past coming back to haunt you, but rather you mentally going back to an event in the past. Whether it is happy thoughts or sad, there is something in your present brings up those memories.
These memories can be from many feelings. It could be depression, loneliness, anxiety, sadness, etc.. The reason for the memories returning can be triggered by too many things to list them all. Most triggers are from one or more of the senses being stimulated. The familiar smell of meatloaf brings back memories of Mom making my favorite birthday dinner up until 2006 when she passed away. The sight of an orange colored rose brings back memories of my first love from 1975. An old song brings back memories of people and places I’ve been. Biting into a slice of cherry cream pie or sour cream and raisin pie brings back memories of my father who passed away in 2002. The touch of velour brings back Christmas 1978 when I purchased a new car for my mother that had velour upholstery.
Don’t try to suppress them, that only reinforces those memories occupying your mind. Instead, do one, or as many of the following it takes to move on:
- Express your feelings. It can be with the one that made that memory with you, a friend, or write it down to move on.
- Don’t play the blame game by pointing fingers at others. Doing so re-victimizes you and gives control over that memory to whomever you blame, leaving them in control of that memory.
- Focus on the present by grounding yourself in the now. Do something that you enjoy that will occupy your mind.
- Forgive whomever wronged you, including yourself!
- Focus on the positive people around you.
- Make new positive memories to replace the old.
- Disconnect for a while. Turn your computer off, put your phone on silent, and leave whatever environment you’re in when the memories came back. It does not have to be for an extended period of time, just long enough to refocus your brain.
The longer you are occupied with the past, the longer it takes to get you back into the present.
As long as you are dwelling in the past, it prevents you from being present to have a future. ~ ME
America has become more and more polarized every day. The media slants stories to promote agendas both on the left and right, even though the left has more outlets. Congressional representatives no longer dedicated to this nation, only their party.
Not that long ago, congressional representatives may have disagreed with the POTUS, but would still compromise to keep America safe. Now, parties on both sides flat out refuse to do anything that the other side promotes.
The left does not want citizenship to show on the next census because it could affect the number of representatives their state has. They forget they are there to represent Americans and those LEGALLY in this country.
The right wants to protect the corporate world and the middle class to the wealthy. They forget that there are those less fortunate. They too forget that they are there to represent all Americans and those LEGALLY in this country.
It is time for ALL Americans to stand up and tell the legislative and executive branches that enough is enough and if they can’t do the job, we will elect people who can!
Last night the snow started falling with meteorologists predicting 6-8 inches. By noon, we had 10 inches and the snow was still falling. I broke out the snow blower and cleared our driveway and sidewalk.
I no sooner finished and my other half suggested that we should clear the driveway across from us as the owner is elderly. Off I went, and 40 minutes later that drive and sidewalk was clear.
Then, it was the drive and sidewalk for the elderly gentleman next to us. Another 40 minutes, another completed task. I came home and took off my winter clothes. As I eased into the recliner an all too familiar voice said, “We should go clear our son’s driveway!”
Our son, our poor son, is presently on an island along the South Texas coast with his family enjoying 70 degree weather. After multiple prompts from my wife, I gave in and went and cleared his driveway and sidewalk.
Upon return home, my shoulders, elbows, and back hurt! I now sit here with a tens unit on each shoulder and a heating pad on my back. It just goes to shows that old adage:
No good deed ever goes unpunished.
Have a great day my friends.
Loneliness is a mental disconnect from other people due to geographical distance, low self-esteem, depression, divorce, or death of a loved one. Some saying being an introvert can cause loneliness, but I think being an introvert is part of low self-esteem.
Loneliness can result in:
- Depression and suicide
- Cardiovascular disease and stroke
- Increased stress levels
- Decreased memory and learning
- Antisocial behavior
- Poor decision-making
- Alcoholism and drug abuse
- The progression of Alzheimer’s disease
- Altered brain function
People dealing with loneliness tend to age faster.
On the other side of the spectrum a person who cares for another person experiences increased self-esteem, reduction in stress, a social connection with that person, and a lower resting blood pressure.
If you notice someone showing the symptoms of loneliness, take a chance and show them you care. Not only can you increase their quality of life, but yours will be improved too. ~ ME
If none of the paths you have tried lead you to happiness, maybe it is time to quit following paths established by others and create your own. ~ ME
With today being Valentine’s Day:
True love is where both people want health and happiness for their partner more than they want it for themselves. ~ ME
We have become all too accustomed to turning to the material world with questions that only the spiritual world can answer. ~ ME