We see ourselves as individuals, a singularity, uniquely identified by name and genetics. Through the materialization of how we aspire to be we create the building blocks of who we think we are and what others should see in us. The foundation we lay for building ourselves might be strong and square as we see it, but in truth may very well be uneven and skewed because of our psychological need for self preservation.
Yet, no matter how carefully we build who we think we are, those who surround us do not see us as we see ourselves. Their image of us might be close to what we think we created, or it could be completely off. To complicate the matter, every person we come into contact with will view us differently than others. Their view of us might be close to another’s but there are always varying degrees of difference.
To our spouse we might see ourselves as a loving provider and friend while their perception of us guided either through clarity or the fog of mentality might see us as a controller or manipulator.
To our children we see ourselves as counselor and protector while they may know us as a dictator, ogre or scourge.
To our neighbors and co-workers we see ourselves as a comrade in community while they can view us as pest, a bother, or a nuisance.
So, who we are is not in accordance with who we think we are, but is determined by identities given to us by those around us. The better we understand those identities, the more we can work to either change the minds of those identity creators, or accept our destiny to be many as one.