If you have followed my aphorisms and thoughts, you will see a common denominator when it comes to happiness. Although there are many influences, happiness comes from within, not from outside yourself. No one can give you happiness, and no one can take it away.
Influences include, but are not limited to:
Perception – Perception is determined by how you perceive your environment.
Onus of Control – If you believe that your environment controls you, thus an external onus of control you give others control over your happiness. Whereas if you believe you have an internal onus of control, you take responsibility for your state of being and can control your perception of your environment.
Expectations – If you set reasonable goals and expectations for yourself, you can meet your expectations and establish an internal onus of control, thereby giving yourself a positive perception of your environment.
Attitude – If, instead of being grumpy about a task or situation, you set your mind to overcome a situation or task with the attitude of “this too shall pass”, you can have a positive attitude where your expectations are positive because you have taken the onus of control upon yourself and perceive the item positively.
I could go on and on about the different aphorisms about happiness, but you should by this point see that when it comes to happiness, it is all up to you to either embrace it or give it away.